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Monogamy vs Polygamy

       Osmo Kontula 


The focus of this chapter is to evaluate how strong the tendency among Finns still is to form only one, lifelong relationship. We will also take a look at the number of sexual partners that those who enter relationships without being in love have had. In addition, we will discuss same-sex sexual experiences and analyze what unites those who have had numerous sexual relationships. Finally, we will summarize the practical significance of love in relationship formation.


KEY WORDS:  Sexuality, Sexual Health, Sex Research, Finland, Monogamy, Polygamy, Polyamory, Single

SexuS Journal ● Winter 2019 ● 4 (11): 959-978



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